Me and her- hand in hand

 The dulcet, the warm and the tender                                                                                I

Floating like bubbles

Afraid they’ll burst as i burst in to laughter

Nothing comes after this is the best

The end of my quest

Emotions she triggers

That make me tumble

And on my knees crumble

til like a chid i fumble

with a new reality

have i lost all sanity?

As i fall even deeper                                                                                                                       L

Deep in the fall

Waiting for her,                                                                                                                               O

from all directions four

Her nerve tickling beauty                                                                                                     V

 invading my soul

My enchanted mind floating                                                                                                    E

 like the leaves that fall

To touch the earth of her beautiful heart

My solid ground

To her I’m bound

In God we’re found

A lioness I watched her prowl

Towards the prey of what she desired

Pounced on me with her gentleness

With her smile dislodged me from my defenses

And knocked me out with her one sweet dimple

The quintessential elements of love

Out of time written from above

entwined to her like a dove

Drifting towards cloud 9. . .naa                                                                                                  Y

More like cloud 99 our nine lives to 90                                                                                     O                  Old felines,                                                                                                        U

 grey hairs and gentle lines

Soft purs and gentle paws

Me and her hand in hand.

 bY M c N o r r i s

Betrayal

Like the water that seeps into the earth

 Slowly trickling down

 Like the wind before the rain slowly invading my space

 It’s gloom and darkness like a blanket unfold

 To cover the sun of what I hold dearest

 To dim the light of my confidence in what I trust

 Where has it gone?

The comfort that embraced me

 Now all I feel is the biting cold of a cruel reality!

Like the roots that grow into the earth

gently digging down

Like the breeze before the storm gently caressing my face

It’s cunning nature to conceal a doom untold

To rob me of what I treasure the most

To kill the hope of my faith in what I believe
Where did it go?

The love that comforted me

Now all I feel is the scorching sun of a harsh reality!

Beauty turns to ashes

Pretty petals wither

Even rainbows fade

To the earth they all go 

where the water keeps trickling down

And those roots keep digging

To feed that tree of mistrust

Ripe with fruits of doubt and pain

Its shade to comfort a dying love!

Betrayal

From Si to Mina, And Mina to Si

Inspiration from my girl friend and NickelBack

Quoting my girl friend who quoted Nickelback's song on one of her face book posts,

"My best friend gave me the best advice. 

He sed each day is a gift and not a given right.

 Leave no stone unturned. Leave your fears behind.

 And try to take the road less travelled.

. . . the song goes on to say. . 

.Against the grain should be a way of life
What's worth the prize is always worth the fight
Every second counts 'cause there's no second try
So live like you'll never live it twice
Don't take the free ride in your own life" -If today was your last day/Nickelback

That quote left an imprint on my mind and i wondered if we really live life to the fullest? Do we become all that we were created or meant to be? The world that we live in today is filled with people who are simply trying to fit in and in the process loosing their individuality. The brilliant are toned down in this sea of mediocre, in any case we are all brilliant in some thing, in some way, yet we are made to believe that if you lack brilliance in something someone else is brilliant in that means you are totally dull- right? well No! as unique as your finger prints and DNA are so are your talents. We all have tremendous "potential" and sometimes that is all there is until we get old and die some day, with a lot of potential, untapped, never utilized, just dormant potential.

We live out our lives with this vast store house of potential that never amounted to anything at all and because we know we could have been something or made something of ourselves in days past we then want to lead our kids in the path that leads to our own failed dreams, the path that we ourselves didn't walk in but had the potential to walk in. We come up with very good explanations (mostly excuses) on why we never achieved all we could have in life! The truth is when we started out coming from high school and college, we had our lives all planned out and nothing could stand in our way when it came to achieving our dreams but alas we ended up falling into the same trap we were so careful to avoid- Why?

The truth is conformity starts at a very early stage in life, even from childhood and someone ended up coining the term "peer pressure" and truth be told that animal doesn't go away even in adulthood. Society paints a picture of what's cool and what is not and the media plays a crucial role in this regard. Teenagers are told to believe that it's cool to party all day, do drugs, get high and drunk, have sex, sag their pants and talk in a certain way which is "totally cool". The kids that would go against the grain face a terrible time among their peers, from being ridiculed and shunned  because they are not as "cool" as the kids that are portrayed as cool. Because we are social creatures we feel a great need to fit in and even be popular if we can but there is always a price we pay and in most cases we sacrifice who we truly are!

The pressure doesn't stop there it digs its roots deeper into adulthood. In Africa particularly Zimbabwe there seems to be a general consensus of when girls in particular should get married. The pressure to get married mounts as a woman approaches her mid-twenties (maybe there was a national convention held for that that i am not aware of). From the age of twenty three she is frequently invited to weddings of her friends, peers, former school mates etc and she just feels so left out and again feels this need to fit in that the next "monster to be" of a guy becomes her knight in shinning amour. Every dream is thrown outside the wagon just to accommodate a fantasy of marriage even though she might not yet be ready for such a big step in life but then again the great almighty "society" dictates that she does all to be regretted later on in life. The men as they grow older will also make their attempts to fit in, pretending to like certain life styles they really don't like and cheating on their wives and having a "small house" because "every" man does that!

These social pressures never improved anyone's life neither can we find any value to them when weighed in the balance of life. We desire greatness when we behold it, all polished up and shinny like a finished sculpture but we never take the time to think of the process. The hands bruised with the hammer and chisel, the focus written on the artist's face until his/her masterpiece is done. That is what is lacking in the world, people who are willing to take a shot at it no matter how difficult it might seem. Non-conformists who will go against the current and emerge the truly great people of our generation. People who are not constrained by what others expect of them but rather stand firm on what they believe is right and loose the weight of societal baggage that most people needlessly carry on their shoulders for all their lives without realizing any satisfaction from it and if asked why they became who they are they can not come up with a convincing explanation but that "that's just how things are!" Strive Masiyiwa the founder of Econet Wireless once said in one of his testimonies talking about how Econet was founded and established and the many challenges he faced, he said "i was willing to pay the price."

You can never stand out when you are always trying to fit in. It is not an easy task to "walk the path less traveled" but it is that uncommon path that will lead to an uncommon destiny.That path that will lead to greatness that the world has never known. Imagine what the world would be like for African Americans if Dr Martin Luther King jnr or Malcolm X had decided to fit in with the crowd of their time? Or what if Steve Jobs the founder of Apple had decided to go along with his peers and just do what everyone else in IT was doing at the time? Imagine if Thomas Edison had quit on the light bulb? Imagine today what the telecoms industry in Zimbabwe would look like if Strive Masiyiwa or Miko Rwayitare the founder of Telecel had given up on dreams of owning a Telecommunications company when the current and all odds were against them?

All these great men and women like madame Curie, Florence Nightingale, Mother Theressa, Harriet Tubman and my mum (God rest her soul) had one thing in common and that is they all went against the grain as nickel back sings about in their song with such a profound message. You do not set out for greatness like one mining for gold but you truly become great when you find yourself and do something with a deep conviction that it is the road you need to take to get to where you want to be. You become great when you follow your dream, unwavered in your determination and with the artist's focus on your brow. There are always certain sacrifices to be made, maybe your peers will not think you are "fresh" or cool or that you are strange or you are taking too much of a risk in your pursuits. People might discourage you and it hurts even more when it comes from those closest to you because they might think your dreams are impossible and you are incapable to see them through even if they were possible- you know what that is how people treated the Wright brothers before they took off in the first plane ever made.

King Solomon once said "my son do not waste your time on worthless pursuits". Worthless pursuits are those things you are not passionate about, the things you do to please your friends, or anyone for that matter, those are the things you do because someone else did it. In such things you will never find fulfillment because they are not tied to your destiny and you have the power to choose your destiny. You choose your own destination and that meets with greatness when you find a need you can provide for, when you find a solution to the many ills of our world. You were created unique and no one on earth can best you at being you! Let go of the insecurities, the inferiority complexes, the need to fit in, fear, pride, hate, ignorance and all those negative emotions and thoughts for those are the things that will hold you back from becoming the person you are meant to be the person you can be, the person you are becoming starting from today.

With every day Elohim blesses you with apply yourself regardless of the circumstances. Do not let anyone tone down your unique talents and gifts or pour water on your dreams and no matter how old you think you are, it is never too late to start again. Consider the ant hill with its elaborate tunnels and sheer size for it is one grain of soil upon another cemented with determination.

thanks to the beautiful Wilhelmine Wachter for the inspiration!who also writes on her own blog "The write monkey"

by M c N o r r i s

 

Painting By Robert Duval/Emotional Dance

Truly a King

When raindrops fell, and incessantly they poured

When my sky moaned and grumbled

And unheard things it mumbled

And how those clouds stumbled

Racing like a sable in the jungle

To render this heart dark and cold

and i sank in gloom with no purpose to hold

a sadness deep inside of truths untold

To my grief sold,

Traded to my sorrows

And given to misery

A shining light that pieced through the dark clouds

A seed of redemption that began to sprout

Burning away every gripping seed of doubt

To make light a burdened heart shrouded in darkness

To give light to eyes pulled down heavy by sadness

To redeem a soul lost deep within time’s wilderness

Its warmth hit me

Touched me

Caressed me

And kissed me

That ray of light for which every night I did pray

Now listen to my heart the things it desires to say

For in that defining moment was born a day

New like the vision my eyes now behold

A new path, a clearer way that I now see unfold

Beautiful as the way of this new sun that treads on gold

Never timid again but like a lion bold

To my happiness sold

Traded to my joy

And given to love

the warmth that hit me

Touched me

Caressed me

And kissed me

 

Never timid again but with my LIONESS bold!

I am truly a KING!!

by M c N o r r i s

This one is for you babe "Fortunate" by Maxwell

[Verse1:]

Never seen a sun shine like this
Never seen the moon glow like this
Never seen the waterfalls like this
Never seen the lights off like this
Never dug anyone like this
Never had tasty lips to kiss
Never had someone to miss
Never wrote a song quite like this

[Chorus:]

Fortunate to have you girl,
I'm so glad you're in my world,
Just as sure as the sky is blue,
I bless the day that I found you.

[Verse 2:]

Never had room service all night
Never took a trip first class flight
Never had a love affair so tight
I've never felt a feeling so right
Never seen a winter so white
Never had words to recite
Never had a flame to ignite
And I never sang a song with all my might.

[chorus 2x]

Silence child hope you hear
I'm callin out to your body
Baby you know just what to do
Close the door no interlude
 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i0fAEJQtqnU

For Mina Wachter www.thewritemonkey.blogspot.com

You Are

 Follow this link:

 http://thewritemonkey.blogspot.com/2013/01/you-are.html

Timeless beauty

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The Friend Zone- a place between earth and hell

millions of men world wide suffer horribly in painful silence as they waste time and money (esp money) trying to woo a woman who has cruelly put them in the friend zone. She just can't get the fact that you are not gay so there is no plausible reason on earth why you would want to be "just" friends with a very attractive woman.

No matter how much effort you put, you still get that pathetic line like " aah thanks bud!' or "you are my best friend in the world and i love you to bits" or another line that will feel like electric jumpers on your balls " you are like a brother to me". Truth be told you didn't go out there to look for another relative you wanted some and you know what im talking about...and as soon as another guy walks by she drops her jaws and further torment you by "oh that guy is fine" and in your mind you are thinking "What tha F bitch can't you see i am right here".

You started out fine but somehow along the way you took a wrong turn and ended up in the friend zone. You now the guy she talks to about the other guy she likes but you freeze when you should tell her how you feel and when you finally get the guts to tell her how you feel you get some crap  in your ears like "oh i love you too soo much that i don't want to ruin our friendship" Whaat? and you believed that shit! that is bull karangoes, she is trying to gently lay you down and that's like tying a stone around a cat's neck and throwing it into the river rather than just putting a bullet to its head and get it over with. It has now been a long time and you practically know this girl so well yet you can't break out of this prison called the friend zone.

Chris Rock once said something like :--
You know one cool thing about women, women get to have platonic friends. "He's my pal, he's my bud, he's my pla-ton-ic friend...I love him like a brother, he's my bud, my platonic friend."
Men don't have platonic friends. We just have women we haven't fucked -yet-..."as soon as I figure this out, I'm in there!".
I mean, we got some platonic friends, we go "Oh no I got some but they all by accident - every platonic friend i got is some women I was trying to fuck, i made a wrong turn somewhere, and ended up in the friend zone - Oh No! I'm in the Friend Zone!".

"you're really great, you're just such a good friend" and a million derivatives there of. Most likely being said around the globe as you read this. 

Another accurate way to define this horrible situation is:

A realm of darkness and depression between hell and the earth's surface where innocent males are sent to by attractive/nice females when acting friendly as an attempt to build a good relationship with a female to interest them in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. This horrible place is to be avoided at all costs and all males are advised not to develop a crush on their close female friends in order to avoid this.

I am not talking about the girl that you tolerate or that girl that you do not have any intentions of macking on, (these are the girls that you yourself have sentenced to the friend Zone) Or your hommies NO, i am talking about that daij you got the hots for but she has friend-ed you. That hot daij you secretly wank to every night and tomorrow you will be hanging out with her on the pretense of "friendship", Yes that girl that shamefully got you watching "sex in the city" and "twilight" with her and after that it didn't aid your situation in whatever way. Yes you know that girl that got you into a situation where you have all the responsibilities of a boyfriend but with none of the benefits.

Truth is there were certain things you should have done and some you should not have done but maybe its too late and you are already trapped it this merciless web of the Friend Zone. So to all my fellow soldiers on the frontline trying to break out of the "Friend Zone" here is some valuable intel you could use.

take note...

1. If she really likes you she will find it very hard or nearly impossible to ask you for things (yes that includes money and airtime)

2. If u are 'just a friend' next time you go on a date go Dutch (it shouldn't be a surprise to her though else we will kick you out of the men's club- douche bag)

3. Do NOT be fooled by the "sweetie", "dear" talk (she probally calls her dog by the same pet names) that is just to get what she wants from you! Stay focused u are not yet in the promised land of "boyfriendhood"

4.Do not offer her advice on the subject of men ( in that instance you are officially the girl friend in a man's body)

5. When she talks about other guys do Not suck up to that crap, Don't pretend like you are cool with it and you don't mind when we all know its killing you inside.

6. When you unfortunately realise you in the friend zone the best thing is to walk away but if you are staying for the battle at list talk about other girls that you like and like you and spend time with them, contrary to what you think it will not push her away.

7. Stop being Mr Nice guy, just stop it, it not only makes you look bad and desperate but it also weakens you as a men, it eats right through your spine and before you know it you are bending over to do every little thing you think will impress her when you have become a convenience to her.

8. Say NO for once, "hey can you take me to this other joint?"  uhmm "NO" don't just say yes to everything she asks you to do even if and when you can, have some dignity. In fact ask her to do some favors for you as much as you do those little favors for her, if she can't then why should you!

9. Do NOT worship the girl she is not a goddess, it is good to compliment a woman (when it is appropriate) but do not lick her behind by showering her with praises at every turn, we all get it she is hot but that is not a ticket for her to make your life a living hell. 

10. Give yourself some boundaries for crying out loud, if you are not "YET" the boyfriend then know when to stop, there are certain things that only the boyfriend should take responsibility for and you are not yet the mayor of that town so let some things be. 

11. If (by some miracle) she happens to kiss you one day because she just broke up with her boy friend do not get all emotional and shit and think you have arrived  wait for her to tell you how she feels about you, in the mean time enjoy the ride and don't be in a rush remember you do not want to sound desperate which would be a major turn off on her part.

12. Show her that you want her, let her know you are attracted to her in the first conversations you have after that exciting moment when you get her number. 90% of friend zoned fellas only told the girl that they liked her when she was already dating another oan and most of the time the girl might think all you want is a pla-to-nic relationship. 

13.  Do not assume you are going out just because you spend most of your time togethr that is a recipe for the worst disaster do not leave anything to chance, you need to learn how to close the deal! ;-)

14. If she has a boyfriend already don't hate on the man he is a fellow brother, if she likes you she will not often mention him and she will never introduce you to him or do the other gay thing and that's send you his pic, my good friend allow not such atrocities to be committed against you. let me explain this for a moment- when you get introduced to the boyfriend it means you are not a threat and what that means is you are not a future potential sexual partner, you are like one her girl friends. Do you really want that to haunt you?

15. if you like her so much then do the descent thing and ask her out and if she doesn't like you back, saddle your horse and move on, let her miss you if she will but keep your distance (the later is good for you).

Being nice will not get you anywhere, do not change the person that you are so that you can be close to a girl. Do" you" to the fullest and get a back bone whilst you at it and girls will like you just fine. Have a set of balls that they will hear knocking together from a distance away, have the confidence to be YOU but do not be corky that wont get you any milage either.


watch this 'friend zone single' click on the link below
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=OSwsJtSfyXU

 
true but you will never escape if you can't realise you are caught up in one..
Emancipate yourself from the "Friend Zone"

by Mc N o r r i s